Hello beautiful one,
I was just sitting here spending time with God, working on my own inner world (I practice what I teach!) and I was reminded of a man I knew. It was a peculiar situation that ended tragically but I believe at least for someone today, hearing this story could help change the trajectory of their life.
I got introduced to this man, we will call him Harold, through a friend. The two had become close so he started hanging around. He was very handy, always fixing something. He even built me a custom vivarium for my lizard Firefly all those years ago.
There was something very peculiar about him though, I could tell he was deeply troubled. So warm and friendly, so helpful, and seemed to have talent for working with his hands. But I could tell he had given up on himself, and consequently living a good life long before I met him.
You see it turned out his mom was a true narcissist, and he was very beat down mentally/emotionally. But she had much wealth and had basically told him that when she died he would inherit a sizable fortune. So he lived in a way that appeased her so he could one day get that dangling carrot when she died.
He lived his days as if they were just a countdown to one day having a solution to all his problems. His life held hostage by this “one day” date on the calendar. As if “one day” he will have a life worth living. And until then, he chose to suffer controlling emotional abuse with no effort to make anything of himself or his life.
He just gave up trying until then. It was so sad to see.
Well this “one day” he had his life on hold for never came. He never saw it. As after just a little while of knowing him, he passed away. I’d guess he was in his 40s or 50s or so. All those years wasted, just waiting for an inheritance one day.
Although Harold’s story is a pretty extreme one, I think in one way or another so many of us can identify with having a place in our life “on hold” till one day comes. When I first work with a client I’ll often hear some “one days” such as “one day when I lose weight or I’m at this fitness goal”, “one day when I have this amount of money”, “one day when I’m married”, “one day when I move”, “one day when I have a new job”, “one day after I achieve this milestone or this life event happens”, and maybe the most heartbreaking “one day when I have the time, resources, or energy and when I’m ready”.
Listen, you’ll never be “ready” for that change you want so badly. It was never about being “ready”, there will always be a reason to stay to stuck and behind the boundaries and limits of the mind, beneath the ceilings that keep us from going higher. It’s about choosing to change. It’s about choosing to step past every boundary, limit, and ceiling. It’s about choosing you.
I am someone who lived with many traumas, soul wounds, pains, fears, you name it. I’m someone who spent so much of her younger years putting energy into just surviving the day. So I am so empathetic to anyone going through that. But I hope even more so my own story is an inspiration. I’ve overcome what I was told is impossible to overcome. I’ve continued to shatter barriers, boundaries, limits, ceilings you name it!
But it all started with a choice to recognize that one day was today.
If you want one day to be today, I have multiple ways to help you do just that. From a membership to my app Joy Rising 🔆 full of life changing resources, to custom tailored one on one support with me.
Reach out if you’d like help.
At the very least, may Harold’s memory be a blessing that we remember one day is today.
God has so much more for you, beautiful one.
Blessings and Wonders,
